Copy & Paste Friends

While I was doing a little Sunday cleaning M.A. stumbled on an article about friends who copy and decided to share it with me. As I know he could care less about the drama that can consume us ladies and our friendships I thought it very kind that he had me in mind so I immediately stopped to read. I have had issues with this in the past and no matter how I tried to explain myself or how much I prayed about it, I just could not seem to shake the irritation…  

Frienemies

Ladies, let's kill these fake friendships... I'm exhausted trying to keep up with all the daggers and jabs being thrown.

This is so hilarious, yet so true to life... Do yourself a favor and cut the drama out of your life in all areas.

Positive Friendships

I had the honor of spending a few hours with a dynamic group of women this weekend. All four of us were from relatively small areas of Michigan and had now moved away in the pursuit of happiness. After talking with them for hours about how trying our first year away from home was, we toasted our glasses to the joys of having the strength to make it out on our own. We also shared in the pain of losing friends along the way. I truly believe every woman needs that bond. God knows how I needed to connect with women that truly understood where I came from and where I am trying to go.

To understand the dynamics of your friendship, is to know yourself. How do you feel while around your close friends, what do you talk about with them and can you be yourself? Do they encourage you, do you feel inspired by them and is this friendship healthy?  These are questions you should have clear answers to.

I honestly believe some people bring out the worst in others. I can clearly remember feeling like I was in completion with women and I couldn’t quite trust that they had my best interest at heart. All of these feeling caused me to become super defensive and protective. To constantly go into battle mode with anyone is draining. You never really realize how trust issues affect your everyday social life.

The impact that these ladies had on me this weekend is nothing short of amazing. As Black women I believe it is our duty to paint a positive picture of our sisters. As women we should congratulate another woman when you’re seeing her shine and help her out when you see her down! All of this catty, backstabbing behavior is so unattractive ladies. We all look so much better celebrating each other’s success.

These lovely young ladies are best friends and business partners. They are such a great example of a positive dynamic friendship. You can find both of these ladies on Instagrm promoting their “It Works” business @prettyparis143 and @envied_admired.

You Will Lose Friends On Your Way To The Top!

This is so on point!  Anyone aspiring to do something great and outside of the box needs to hear this.

PREACH!

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Friendships: The rise and the fall

How many times have we been really close to someone and felt this friendship would never end? Not only were you guy’s friends, you considered each other family. Now you find yourself not speaking to this person. Maybe you guys had a falling out or maybe one of you guys moved away and simply grew apart. I believe this has happened to everyone at some point in life.

If you’re into “self improvement” as I am, You may find yourself wondering what it was that you did wrong? How could you have done better and why did the friendship end?

After years of meeting and losing contact with people I honestly think that not one person is more at fault then the other. Friendships are sometimes for a reason. For example; If you were really into partying and hanging out, then you stop. You may find that you don’t run out with the same group. No one person is at fault, you simply grew apart.

After years of having different falling outs with people you realize that you are simply not on the same page. Someone in the friendship may be feeling “some kinda way” about the other person and the issue never gets resolved.

Once you walk away from the friendship you move on with life and everything else is water under the bridge. Through out life we will not like everyone that we meet. I think it's human to to disagree.

We can easily get caught up in the emotion of the situation or the “he said, she said”. The fact of the matter is that on the outside looking in, no one wins in a battle of words. No one wins in a physical altercation. The only victory is the one that you win internally. If the friendship is worth saving, save it! If you would be better off without all that baggage let them go. It really is that simple.