He's got to go!

Get your life with my Throwback Jam of the day. With all this talk of relationships I decided to share what I'm listening to at this exact moment. 

Box Braids!

I think anyone who has ever worn box braids has felt like this at some point.

Black girl problems...

The struggle is oh, so real!

*sigh*

Envious much?

"When a girl doesn’t like you, they link up with other girls that don’t like you either. Before you know it, it’s a hating ass group of bitches that have nothing better to do than hate on you for most likely irrational reasons that don’t make sense. The funniest part is they more often than not don’t even like each other, but they have that one thing in common and that’s you."

Scrolling around the wonderful world wide web. I found this beautifully written quote about "jealous bitches" linking up with one thing in common... Their mutual hate for you. Although on some level,  I do agree... the whole misery loves company thing never gets old. We all have haters, some more than others... We all get annoyed with the lies, rumors and gossip. It honestly has to get old after a while.

It's not about the haters you have it's about how we deal with them. I put my self in this category because this is not something I have mastered myself. We all have buttons and we can tend to get in our feelings from time to time. No one likes to be talked about or unfairly judged by anyone.

When I think about the scrutiny and judgement people place on celebrities I begin to toughen up. I mean can you imagine? How many people could really deal with constant criticism even when your trying to do something great? I figure, if they can deal with it... I'm sure I can manage.

 Over all, no one wants to hear about how many haters you have in access. It's like ok... we get it... putting too much energy and focus into anything will give you just that thing you focus on... "The Secret" 101.... If you constantly complain about haters you will have more haters. When you focus on something else, you will realize the haters seem to disappear. I know it's easier said than done, but trust me.. It's well worth a try.






It's a cold harsh world out there doll, everybody can't make it look as fly and fabulous as you.

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Is media ruining relationships?

What's your relationship status? Making your life public is a choice we now have. Remember when the only people who knew your relationship or home status were close friends and family? Now with the help of social media along with so much public information. Now, any and everybody can have an opinion on your life.

With the boom of social media, it seems as though everyone feels entitled to know the inner workings of private relationships. We now have access to people and things that we never had before. With all of the technological advances in the world, I believe we lost a sense of privacy. The standard that we used to hold only public figures to... We now tend to look at our “Facebook, Instagram or twitter” friends with that same judgmental eye.

Relationships are hard even behind closed doors away from public opinion. Putting the stress of public scrutiny can render any relationship irreparable. The fact of the matter is... everyone has skeletons; everyone deserves to have some privacy. No one is entitled to know everything about your life. Just because you question something, does not mean you deserve to have an answer.

In all honesty, it’s up to you and your family on what you decide to make public… No one has to live your life but you! 

My prayers go out to the Stewart family.

Are Louboutin divas superficial?

They are everywhere! In music videos, TV shows, on the runway and on some of the most famous feet in the world. They are Christian Loubotins. Platforms, spikes and crystals. So many options to chose from. Anyone can see these designs are beautifully crafted, but is our infatuation with the red sole a way to make women feel superior to the less fortunate? Do women put on that spiked Louboutin platform because they have "insecurity" issues? Are you purely superficial because you decide to drop a few racks on the best of the designer duds?

After scrolling through one of my favorite fashionistas' Instagram accounts (Stillett0meup). I couldn't help but to read the horrible, mean and rude comments people would leave on her page about her choice in shoes. The comments were absolutely ridiculous. While the majority of her followers were in support of her and loved to see her wonderful treasures. Others questioned her line of work, her marital status, and her integrity ALL because she likes to buy nice shoes...

I hear women argue they would never spend money on high priced fashions... Someone is forever suggesting that a more fortunate person should give away money or donate to the needy. All of this advice and criticism in effort to insinuate another woman has to be flawed because she decides to spend her hard earned money on things that SHE likes.

From reading those comments I began to wonder... Do women really think another woman is superficial because of the things that she likes to buy? Do the two go hand in hand, and are you automatically penned materialistic because you chose to purchase designer/expensive things?

                      

I have to admit Christian Louboutin is a very skilled shoe designer. Some of his designs defy gravity, but are we purchasing the shoes for the designs or for the status? When you put your foot in that shoe do you feel like “that bitch” because you can wear the red, or is it because you actually love the shoe?

In my opinion it’s a little bit of both. Of course wearing that red sole comes with a hefty price, but the designs are absolutely a work of art. From a consumers perspective I instantly felt something once I got that first pair! It could mean a since of accomplishment... Maybe it was the anticipation of fantasizing about my first pair and finally having in my possession.  I can't be superficial or materialistic because I can afford to buy a great pair of shoes.... We all have a different perception of what success looks like. We all manage our money differently and spend our money the way we individually see fit.  Spending money on designer shoes does not make one superficial, in the same way that buying a new car does not make a person materialistic. Our success in life translates differently for each individual...  It's all relative. Do what makes you happy. Whatever reason you have for buying what YOU buy is the right reason. Celebrate yourself!

In closing... If you do in fact look down on someone because they have the ability to purchase things that you can't afford, then obviously you're a hater and very miserable.