Angry Much?

 "The moment " I think I'm giving up on black women... You guys always are angry or wake up angry".... I'm going to say something. But if your girl is angry every time she wakes up maybe she's angry because she wakes up to YOU every morning. I'm sure the days she sleeps alone she is fine. Stop making comments like this... We are NOT all alike and maybe just maybe it's something about you that sets her off. (Or just the sight of your face)" 

One of my Facebook friends put up this stat in response to men calling black women angry. Although I myself am a black woman I decided to focus on all women not just black women. I honestly believe that all women go through similar things. This post is my attempt to take a few steps back and go at this topic from both sides...

Single after 30?

With my 30^th birthday approaching, it seems like I'm getting asked about marriage more often. This past weekend I was hanging out with a few girlfriends at the beach and we started to talk about our feelings towards engagement and a possibility of walking down the aisle. Maybe I’m just a freak of nature, but honestly I’m not in any rush. I’ll take my advice from the same place I always get my advice from… The Kardashians.

Seriously Ladies I don’t think we should put that much pressure on ourselves to be married by a certain age.  Besides, I think a long engagement will suit me just fine whenever the time comes. 

Girl, you DO need a man!

I don’t need a man I can do everything all by myself…

Welp… I know I’m going to ruffle a few feathers with this post but it’s been heavy on my heart for a while. I wanted to be mindful of others feelings but I have to be honest and speak my truth.

A while ago I was in Vegas visiting one of my dear friends and we started to talk about relationships and love. My good friend is such an amazing, accomplished and strong woman I sometimes find myself in awe of her. After girl talking with her about our personal experiences in life, I have come to realize so many women need to hear my message.

Is media ruining relationships?

What's your relationship status? Making your life public is a choice we now have. Remember when the only people who knew your relationship or home status were close friends and family? Now with the help of social media along with so much public information. Now, any and everybody can have an opinion on your life.

With the boom of social media, it seems as though everyone feels entitled to know the inner workings of private relationships. We now have access to people and things that we never had before. With all of the technological advances in the world, I believe we lost a sense of privacy. The standard that we used to hold only public figures to... We now tend to look at our “Facebook, Instagram or twitter” friends with that same judgmental eye.

Relationships are hard even behind closed doors away from public opinion. Putting the stress of public scrutiny can render any relationship irreparable. The fact of the matter is... everyone has skeletons; everyone deserves to have some privacy. No one is entitled to know everything about your life. Just because you question something, does not mean you deserve to have an answer.

In all honesty, it’s up to you and your family on what you decide to make public… No one has to live your life but you! 

My prayers go out to the Stewart family.

Down ass chick or Upgrade me?

I'm sure everyone has heard about the Chris Brown, Rihanna and Karrueche Tran saga. For those of you that don't know, I will try to bring you up to speed as quickly as possible.

 Well... Rhinanna and Chris broke up in 2009 after that big Grammys fiasco. Since then, the two have moved on and dated other people. Chris seemed to be lucky because he found Karrueche and the two were inseparable. This girl went through all the probation madness, countless bad press and she did it with a smile. Fast forward four years later, Chris makes a vlog of some sort professing his love for two women (Rih & Karrueche), shortly after he breaks up with Karrueche and now he is currently in a relationship with Rihanna.

I personally think Rihanna and Chris belong together… I mean have you seen them? The chemistry is most certainly there. I also love the fact that Rihanna followed her heart and was willing to be ridiculed and mocked in effort to do what was best for her. What a life lesson that was!

Everyone is all happy Rih and Chris are back together, but what happens to the down ass chick? The Bonnie to his Clyde. The chick that every man says they want… What happens to the ride or die? Is there no honor in that? Many women believe the ride or die chick gets no love. To a certain extent I have to agree.

              

Kevin Hart and Ex wife

Kevin Hart and girlfriend

                    

Many women feel that once a man gets to a certain level of success, he chucks the deuces to the "ride or die" and gets a new piece. Although, I don’t think every instance is that cut and dry, you can't really deny the similarities in certain instances.

I certainly think there are rules to this down ass chick life. What do you think?  Ride with the rider? or Get that upgrade?

           

Dwyane and ex wife

Dwyane and gabrielle