Is media ruining relationships?

What's your relationship status? Making your life public is a choice we now have. Remember when the only people who knew your relationship or home status were close friends and family? Now with the help of social media along with so much public information. Now, any and everybody can have an opinion on your life.

With the boom of social media, it seems as though everyone feels entitled to know the inner workings of private relationships. We now have access to people and things that we never had before. With all of the technological advances in the world, I believe we lost a sense of privacy. The standard that we used to hold only public figures to... We now tend to look at our “Facebook, Instagram or twitter” friends with that same judgmental eye.

Relationships are hard even behind closed doors away from public opinion. Putting the stress of public scrutiny can render any relationship irreparable. The fact of the matter is... everyone has skeletons; everyone deserves to have some privacy. No one is entitled to know everything about your life. Just because you question something, does not mean you deserve to have an answer.

In all honesty, it’s up to you and your family on what you decide to make public… No one has to live your life but you! 

My prayers go out to the Stewart family.

Killer Kelly

Kelly Rowland has been on lately. This chocolate cutie is one to watch this coming spring. 

With Boris kodjoe for Rip the Runway

I think all white is gonna be big this spring/summer. 

Time to bring that Ab Roller back out because it's all about the crop tops.

Giuseppe Zanotti is also one of my favorite shoe designers at the moment, those ostrich sandals are popping up everywhere!

Are Louboutin divas superficial?

They are everywhere! In music videos, TV shows, on the runway and on some of the most famous feet in the world. They are Christian Loubotins. Platforms, spikes and crystals. So many options to chose from. Anyone can see these designs are beautifully crafted, but is our infatuation with the red sole a way to make women feel superior to the less fortunate? Do women put on that spiked Louboutin platform because they have "insecurity" issues? Are you purely superficial because you decide to drop a few racks on the best of the designer duds?

After scrolling through one of my favorite fashionistas' Instagram accounts (Stillett0meup). I couldn't help but to read the horrible, mean and rude comments people would leave on her page about her choice in shoes. The comments were absolutely ridiculous. While the majority of her followers were in support of her and loved to see her wonderful treasures. Others questioned her line of work, her marital status, and her integrity ALL because she likes to buy nice shoes...

I hear women argue they would never spend money on high priced fashions... Someone is forever suggesting that a more fortunate person should give away money or donate to the needy. All of this advice and criticism in effort to insinuate another woman has to be flawed because she decides to spend her hard earned money on things that SHE likes.

From reading those comments I began to wonder... Do women really think another woman is superficial because of the things that she likes to buy? Do the two go hand in hand, and are you automatically penned materialistic because you chose to purchase designer/expensive things?

                      

I have to admit Christian Louboutin is a very skilled shoe designer. Some of his designs defy gravity, but are we purchasing the shoes for the designs or for the status? When you put your foot in that shoe do you feel like “that bitch” because you can wear the red, or is it because you actually love the shoe?

In my opinion it’s a little bit of both. Of course wearing that red sole comes with a hefty price, but the designs are absolutely a work of art. From a consumers perspective I instantly felt something once I got that first pair! It could mean a since of accomplishment... Maybe it was the anticipation of fantasizing about my first pair and finally having in my possession.  I can't be superficial or materialistic because I can afford to buy a great pair of shoes.... We all have a different perception of what success looks like. We all manage our money differently and spend our money the way we individually see fit.  Spending money on designer shoes does not make one superficial, in the same way that buying a new car does not make a person materialistic. Our success in life translates differently for each individual...  It's all relative. Do what makes you happy. Whatever reason you have for buying what YOU buy is the right reason. Celebrate yourself!

In closing... If you do in fact look down on someone because they have the ability to purchase things that you can't afford, then obviously you're a hater and very miserable.

  

Happy Monday

me in the morning....

me at work...

The struggle...

True Beyonce fan

I'm sure every little girl has once dreamed of becoming a famous super star singer. I used to sing into my hair brush pretending I was singing on stage. One woman decide to make that fantasy come to life while showing love for her husband in true Beyonce fashion. Tori Williams did a wonderful melody of Beyonces' "Love on top" & "End of time" on her wedding day. 

Super cute!

Everyone loves Beyonce.

Down ass chick or Upgrade me?

I'm sure everyone has heard about the Chris Brown, Rihanna and Karrueche Tran saga. For those of you that don't know, I will try to bring you up to speed as quickly as possible.

 Well... Rhinanna and Chris broke up in 2009 after that big Grammys fiasco. Since then, the two have moved on and dated other people. Chris seemed to be lucky because he found Karrueche and the two were inseparable. This girl went through all the probation madness, countless bad press and she did it with a smile. Fast forward four years later, Chris makes a vlog of some sort professing his love for two women (Rih & Karrueche), shortly after he breaks up with Karrueche and now he is currently in a relationship with Rihanna.

I personally think Rihanna and Chris belong together… I mean have you seen them? The chemistry is most certainly there. I also love the fact that Rihanna followed her heart and was willing to be ridiculed and mocked in effort to do what was best for her. What a life lesson that was!

Everyone is all happy Rih and Chris are back together, but what happens to the down ass chick? The Bonnie to his Clyde. The chick that every man says they want… What happens to the ride or die? Is there no honor in that? Many women believe the ride or die chick gets no love. To a certain extent I have to agree.

              

Kevin Hart and Ex wife

Kevin Hart and girlfriend

                    

Many women feel that once a man gets to a certain level of success, he chucks the deuces to the "ride or die" and gets a new piece. Although, I don’t think every instance is that cut and dry, you can't really deny the similarities in certain instances.

I certainly think there are rules to this down ass chick life. What do you think?  Ride with the rider? or Get that upgrade?

           

Dwyane and ex wife

Dwyane and gabrielle